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The moment I decided to let go of my excuses, fear, comfort zone and ‘what ifs’, everything changed.


I have always liked to see myself as a go-getter, risk taker and someone who makes things happen.

In a lot of ways, I always have been. But through my healing journey over the past few years, one thing has subsequently become evident: (I am talking like a fry-pan slap to the face)

I realised I was actually playing really small.


Most of my life, I was really only living up to probably half of my full potential — if that.


As frustrating as that was for me to realise, it was also extremely empowering. It was because of this realisation I had made, I was then able to change everything in my life — and that is why I want to share this with you now.

A lot of us (in fact probably most of us) go through life not even realising how small we are actually playing.



I believe it comes down to these four things:

Our excuses as to why we can’t do something.


I call these our ‘justifications’ and ‘permission slips’ to keep playing small, because it’s safe there.

You know those times when you get a gut feeling and your heart is saying, “go for it!” but then you respond with, “Yeah, it would be good, but….xyz”?

There is always a “but”.

Get rid of your excuses. If you feel a gentle, loving nudge to do something and you know in your heart it is a must, listen to that. Listen to those gentle signs the universe sends.

For so long, I ignored those signs. I like to call them ‘love taps’. Even when I knew it was the right thing to do, or the right path to take, I ignored it and instead came up with a whole lot of excuses as to why I couldn’t do something. As soon as I started paying attention to those ‘love taps’ from the Universe, everything in my life starting changing. And not only that, I started attracting what I wanted.




Fear stems from our ego, which is that voice inside your head — or your mean girl — who wants to keep you stuck in fear. She replays, over and over again, a series of unfavourable past events that may have happened to you.

Fear does a really good job of keeping you stuck in the past. That’s its job. It says to you, “Don’t do that! Remember, last time you did that, this happened.” Or, she says to you, “You aren’t good enough to do that. You will never be successful.”


And so what do we do? We say, “That’s right — I won’t do that again.”


It just becomes a constant downward spiral, and as a result, we don’t allow ourselves to grow, step up and start playing big with our lives. This is why you need to let fear go. Close the door gently on your fears, and stop letting past hurt dictate your present. It isn’t happening to you, now.

Set yourself free and become bigger than your fear. Fear is nothing but a story we have told ourselves and when you realise this, the control and power you have over your life to create magic is limitless.


Your safe place, or comfort zone.


This is probably one of the most common ways we hold ourselves back. Your comfort zone is exactly that — it feels comfortable.

Why? Because we have been there, we always know the outcome, and we can predict what is more than likely going to happen. Because of this, we feel good!

It’s that C word we all love: Control.

When we feel in control, we feel safe. In some ways, this can benefit us. But more so than not, it is actually detrimental to our growth, success, happiness and value of life.


I know it’s hard to step outside your comfort zone, trust me. Perturbation is something I have really had to learn to grab with two hands, embrace and run with! Let me tell you, every time I have done that, I have never looked back.

Stepping outside my comfort zone and allowing myself to get comfortable — or being uncomfortable, so to speak — has allowed me to really create the life of my dreams. This is where the magic happens. It does require you to be brave, bold and fearless (but you already are all of those things).


The ‘what ifs’.


“I really want to do that, but what if xyz happens?”


Playing the ‘what if’ game is a sure way to make sure you don’t create the life you desire and deserve. When we do this, we are creating scenarios that haven’t even happened yet, and then we let scenarios — that haven’t even happened yet — stop us from doing what we want to do.


Isn’t that just absurd, when you really think about it?

I know we are all guilty of it, including me. But girl, it is so important that you let these ‘what ifs’ go.

They are going to put a great big wall in between you and your dreams.

The next time you hear yourself say, “what if”, stop.


Catch yourself, and keep going! You were put on this earth to create something big. You were put on this earth to make a difference and live the life you keep dreaming of.

It is yours to take, but you need to get out of your own way. So often — in fact, 99% of the time — if an opportunity comes my way, I take it. Even if I am not entirely sure how I am going to do it, I say yes and then work out how to do it later. You need to know and believe that you already have in you, right now, everything it takes for you to live a life of freedom, love, happiness and success. Once you realise this, anything is possible.


Now go and create magic, beautiful.

Where in your life have you been playing small? Share with us in the comments below!


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Wellness and Life Coach, Writer, Speaker and Warrior seeker