LETTING GO OF JUDGEMENT
Judgement tells you you’re not good enough. It tells you others aren’t good enough. Judgement tells you to be different or how others must be different too. It’s often expressed through grumbling, cynicism, or gossiping. This kind of energy is damaging to you and your relationships. Don’t infect your life with such negativity – instead, become aware of your judgemental patterns & begin to make some positive changes…And here’s how!
Do not assume you know someone else’s story.
Often at times, we project our self-judgments onto others. If someone is not as active as we are at sports or other physical activities, we assume they’re lazy. If they don’t volunteer as much as we do, we assume they’re apathetic. If they don’t give to charity as much as we do, we assume they’re selfish. Get the picture? We cannot possibly know another person’s unique experience. When we assume something about other people, it’s not because of who they are, it’s because of who we are.
Substitute judgment with curiosity and interest
If you’re going to stop judging others, what are you going to do then? You need to replace thoughts of judgment, because simply blocking them won’t cut it for very long. The best way to eliminate a negative habit is to replace it with a positive one. Replace judgment with curiosity and interest. View the other people with a sense of wonder and without judgment. The moment you start doing this, you’ll be free to be who you are all together.
When you stop viewing another person’s actions and ways to be abnormal, you stop judging others to fit into your world. The best way to do this is to make what they’re doing less foreign. The only way to do this is to develop a sense of curiosity and interest for other people. When you give others space to be who they are, you’ll receive the same level of acceptance and respect in return.
Detach yourself from your worldviews and mindsets
The mind works like a computer. It’s constantly measuring and comparing things. It does this to you and it does this to other people. You are not your mind, you are not your thoughts, you are not your opinions. Some of these worldviews and mindsets were simply inherited from your culture, from societal influences, and the like. When you detach yourself from your mind, you’ll experience a greater sense of freedom to experience and to explore things that are new to you, without the need to judge them.
Eliminate your ‘shoulds’
The word ‘should’ empowers judgment. Judgment is always about seeking approval from an outside source. The ‘shoulds’ you have for yourself and for other people reveal how you’re trying to live your life based on someone else’s assumptions and expectations. Let go of these ‘shoulds’ and simply allow yourself and other people to just be.
It’s okay for something to not make sense
A lot of times, we reject or judge things that don’t make sense to us. We fear uncertainty and react on a defensive mode whenever we encounter something counter-intuitive. Train yourself to endure confusion. It’s okay for something to not make sense. Receive it without judgment. Take off the lenses of what you already to know. Acceptance for something that does not quite fit or make sense for you is actually the antidote to judgment.