The Leach of Happiness
At many points in our lives, we compare ourselves to other people. We measure our worth based on what we observe others doing. When we compare ourselves to those around us, we judge ourselves according to the standards we perceive that others live by. Most of the time, we tend to be our own worst critics. When you compare yourself with others, you trick yourself into thinking that your subjective assessment of the other person is actually an objective one. Because this is an illusion, you end up working against yourself; which is why comparing yourself to others is a leach of your happiness.
Here are 5 reasons why you should stop comparing yourself to others:
You Never Win
When you compare yourself with others, there’s never a winner. When you compare yourself to others, and see yourself to be better, you operate from a place of pride; that’s not good. On the other hand, when you compare yourself to others whom you perceive as being, having, and doing better, you feel horrible about yourself. It’s easy to see that when you compare yourself to others, you always end up being the loser.
You’re on Different Paths
Everyone has their own journey to travel; you have your own life to live. You can’t compare your journey to another person’s journey, because you’re each on different roads; one is not better than the other. You don’t know every detail about another person’s life, so stop comparing.
You Neglect Your Own Self-Improvement
Our minds need to quantify; there’s always a longing to compare, so we are able to understand if we are good enough. Instead of comparing yourself with other people, why not redirect the comparison to your past and present self? In this way, you can actually see if you’ve improved. Why don’t you try looking at what you’re naturally good at, and what you enjoy doing? From there, develop the skills and talents that you have. If you keep on comparing yourself with other people, you will never realize if you’ve become a better, or worse, version of yourself. Instead of improving your own unique skills and abilities, you only try to develop skills and abilities that others have.
You Need to Be Authentic
When you compare yourself to others, you create a standard for yourself that doesn’t truly connect with who you are; it’s your subjective interpretation of another person. When we focus on social media, and the life we wish to project, it’s like we’re inviting other people to compare themselves to us, so that we can appear better. However, at the end of the day, this is a smokescreen. This is not real life; it’s a collection of highlights; it doesn’t project the reality of our true lives.
You Need to Concentrate on the Energy You’re Projecting
When you’re constantly in competition with others, you’re sending out a negative vibe. When you do this, the energy that flows through you is negative. When you’re constantly comparing yourself with others, you will have a tendency to feel bad about yourself. Instead of sending out gratitude and joy into the world, you end up with jealousy and self-loathing. Focus on being positive, and work on being the best version of yourself. Don’t mind the rest of the world; do your own thing; be your own person.