HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION
Rejection. When you let the word reverberate through your body, you can’t help but feel dragged down by a serious case of the ‘not enough’s’.
Not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, fit enough, adventurous enough, talented enough, sexy enough… and it goes on and on.
Being snubbed is no fun, both personally and professionally. That had-everything-going-for-him guy, your oldest friend from your school days or the realtor on the house that was meant to be yours can deliver some shocking blows.
So can your boss who knocks back the project concept you’ve been slaving over the past three months or the dream job that ticked every box on your CV, which was offered to the other candidate.
Rejection hurts. No one wants to be told ‘no’, but with a little time and hindsight, more often than not, those ‘set-backs’ are a blessing in disguise for something much more aligned, rewarding and destined for you.
But how do you deal with the rejection when you’re in the thick of it?
Be aware of where you direct your attention
Just because you’ve been rejected by one, two or three people, doesn’t mean that everyone else will too! Be aware of the unpleasant experience, but if you don’t focus on it, you’ll take away its power. Place your attention on the positive support and encouragement you have received from others to better align you with those high-energy emotions and situations.
Use rejection as an instrument for learning and growth
You can decide to use the experience as an opportunity to consider your current behaviours, and determine ways to grow and become a better person. Rejection from current or potential employers might be your motivation to review your CV and enrol in a professional development course. Feedback from your literary agent might propel you to leverage your writing craft to the next level. Your husband’s decision to leave your marriage may move you to help others in a similar situation.
Empathise with the person who rejected you
It might sound odd, but think back to a time when you rejected someone. Recall your thought process and your reasons to stop you from taking it too personally. Be reminded that rejection is just a natural process; not something that needs to knock your confidence to the floor.
Put rejection in another context
Realise that capitalists turn down a TONNE of start-ups before they choose to invest. It doesn’t mean that the start-up isn’t a rad idea; it just means the timing and partnership isn’t right.
And… Get back on the horse!
Yep, it’s time to soldier on – gallop if you will! To get over the rejection, jump straight on the horse, wide open to more rejection. This is a much more dignified approach than begging for another chance to show them what they’re turning down. Show them instead. Your actions will speak for themselves 🙂