When we truly know ourselves, we have the clarity and confidence to move forward in life and in business and are more resilient to challenge and change.

When I was studying Law at University, I was invited to join a debating team. Others on the team were very experienced. I, on the other hand, came from a small country school where local footy and netball was pretty much all the extra-curricular activities on offer. I had no experience debating, but knew that if I wanted to pursue a career in law, I had to learn.


I felt that frog in my throat rise when I went to respond. I paused. I didn’t really want to do it, I wanted to say no, but out it came, ‘Yes, love to!’ I dreamed of being a criminal lawyer, of appearing in court and arguing cases. I knew that debating was a skill I needed to learn if I wanted to achieve that dream.

Debating was something way out of my comfort zone and as the debate night approached, I became increasingly nervous.

The night arrived. I was terrified. The debate commenced and eventually, I was called upon to close for my team. The frog was still there. I was petrified. I stood up, raised my eyes to the crowd and made my argument. I cannot for the life of me remember what I said, but I remember people laughed, smiled and appeared to be interested as I spoke. The audience clapped as I finished. I returned to my seat, my hands and knees still shaking.


Now a life strategist and wellbeing coach, my legal career behind me, I tell this story as an example of sometimes needing to do something you don’t really want to do, in order to get somewhere you want to go.

When we are on purpose and clear about our goals, we have clarity about what is essential and are more resilient in the face of fear and risk.

Great things happen out of our comfort zone. But too often we take the path of least resistance; we choose ease and comfort. We tell ourselves a story to justify our circumstances, we then play victim to our own circumstances and we let our setbacks define us. And all too often we end up in a place that we would never have chosen to be in, had we consciously thought about our path.

Your past does not define you. You can step in, move forward and create a more meaningful life.

If you want to create a life that is truly meaningful you must be intentional and clear about what you want.

Stop for a moment and look ahead to 2020. What do you want your life to look like? What do you want to be doing? Where are you working? How do you feel? Physically? Mentally? Emotionally?


Working with a coach is a space where you can achieve clarity and confidence about your present and your future. It is a process in which you:

– Discover who you truly are and what your core values are

– Recognise self-sabotage and move forward beyond your limiting beliefs

– Get clear on what your purpose is

– Identify what in your life is draining you, what is incongruent with your values and work to get back to balance

– Move forward in life and business with clarity, confidence and resilience


You have the power within you to create that life you want! A life that is meaningful, passionate, purposeful, healthy and whole. Just do one thing today, and again tomorrow, and the next day, that edges you closer to that life.

Accept the challenge to create a life of meaning, to decide who you want to be, how you want to live and what you want to contribute.

Don’t let your past define you. Within you is a universe of possibility.


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Laura Carrocci is a life strategist and wellbeing coach. Laura works with individuals helping them with all aspects of their wellbeing, from discovering strengths and purpose, gaining clarity, living mindfully, developing self-belief, pursuing passion, career transition, stress, time management, sleep and physical health and wellbeing.

Laura brings to coaching a deep understanding of stress management and interventions for wellbeing.